When two people are arguing, they tend to say something that will hurt the other without thinking it through. However, they don’t realize how those words will eventually hunt their relationship. Is it wise to keep silent or crack a joke during the argument? I always believe that silence is golden, but during argument, it may cause the fury of anger to burn even further. As for cracking a joke, well that always turns out to be a bad move because generally the other person will think that you don’t take him/her seriously. I believe many of you gents have experienced the time where you tried so hard to hold your tongue and she just kept pushing it. Here is the confession: For a woman who is willing to spend time to argue with you or nag you, it means she still cares! She is just so eager to get her point across. This kind of reaction can apply to men too, but mostly women.
How to face an argument with minimal negative side effects?
1. I am Sorry
Saying sorry is always the first step, but don’t say sorry lightly. When you realize you did something wrong, APOLOGIZE!!!
It is hard to find that ground to forgive, but if you do care about the person, try! Of course this doesn’t apply to cheating nor beating. Personally, there is nothing to forgive in those two categories.
3. Do Not mention old History
There is a reason why history stays in the past. Digging out all that old dirt is just not making anyone feel better. Arguments expire by case so leave them in the past!
4. Move On
Here are some options. You can either seek for someone new or work on the present. Which way you choose will be completely sensible. When you both put an end to the argument, move on! Don’t hold grudges, it’s simply not healthy!
After the argument, try to be sweet to each other.
People say what tells us of who we are by what we do. But I would say what tells of who we are is by our determination in things that we want. Some people change their look and style to declare of a change in life. A new begging or a new chapter in life. How can we keep the life that we want with other people’s involvement? If someone tells me that life is simple or can be as simple as you want it to be, I would like to ask how? And here are my thoughts:
What is the definition of anger? People express their anger differently and for those who is up front is someone you don’t have to worry too much about. Generally this type of people are easy to deal with. You don’t have to worry that they will hide something from you or stab you from your back. The people who just emotionless, which you can’t quite know what they are thinking, are the ones you should put more thoughts into it. In life, you will come across many types of people. If you look closely on their reaction on certain things, you can learn quite a lot from them.
People say Patient is a virtue, I say it’s true. I realized the calm ones are the people who can really see what the situation is and how to persuade people in the direction that they wish others to go. Want your life to be simple? Train your communication skills!!