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We all have the moment of darkness. We all experienced the feeling of failing or no where to go. What makes some of us different from the others is that we choose to look at the positives from all the negatives. When things fall apart, the first impression people will have is that it is BAD! Just like the word “mutation.” People thought about the word mutation as something bad, however, it is not quite the case. Mutation is just a change or better yet, to be different. I agreed that most of the mutations that people have known about are bad. Non the less, what about the good ones? In life, things don’t always go your way. In fact, your way might not be as perfect as you think it is. All you have to do is to be honest with yourself and live your life the fullest! Trust me, at the end of the day, the biggest accomplishment that makes you so unique is that you will have no regrets!

Love is passion, obsession, something you can’t live without. How do you find him/her? Forget your head, listen to your heart. The truth is that there is no sense in life living without this. To make a journey and not fall deeply in love, you haven’t lived a life at all. You have to try! Coz if you haven’t try, you haven’t lived. 

In life, there are many compromises. However, when it comes to choosing the man/woman for the rest of your life, there is no such thing as compromise. How do you know who is best for you? From experiences, people need to work on themselves, love themselves and believe in themselves in order to find the best match. If you know how to treat yourself right, there is a small chance that you will find someone to make you less happy in life. It can be lonely sometimes when you are single, but it’s not a bad thing. You are simply working on yourself while you are waiting for the right one to come along. There is a man/woman will double your happiness, but you need to know how to be happy by yourself! If you don’t even know what makes you happy, how would anyone else know, right? Don’t be fooled by the feeling of loneliness because you know you are way better than that! 

Many of us have thought about what love is. When I looked up in dictionary, this is what it says.

1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
2. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
a. Sexual passion.
b. Sexual intercourse.
c. A love affair.
4. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
5. A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.

6. An expression of one’s affection

7. a. A strong predilection or enthusiasm.

    b. The object of such an enthusiasm

If the definition of love can be describe in so many terms, paring up with our complicated mindset, love can be in many forms. What is love and relationship exactly? As long as you are happy with yours, it doesn’t matter what other people think. They are not the one who is dating your boyfriend/girlfriend. Everyone has something special about him/herself. Remember those drama and comedy shows always making fun of the idea of men listens just to get women? In reality, it is not that men don’t listen. It is just the things that women talk about are probably disinterests the men. For example, some women many found a man keep talking his work is fascinating and some just want to get out of there right away. Appreciate with interests and what you want in life. When you found someone who has the same frequency, don’t ever let him/her go easily.

Love isn’t finding someone you can live with, but finding someone you can’t live without. Love is like a pill. It can save you from your misery and yet it has some side effects. How can you keep having that capsule is completely controlled by your hand. When you nurture your relationship with the one, for example, find a way to communicate nicely, you are certainly making your love capsule. When you are arguing, it means you are taking the advantage of the love pills that you created before. Honestly, we all have our weird side. We are weird in different ways. It is our weirdness that makes us special. And it is the weirdness makes us find the one that best suits us. Because we are weird, we are selective! Love is always a fun topic to talk about because it is such a powerful thing that makes people loss their logic sense. Remember those times that you eagerly want someone back and did all that so called stupid sh!t? (pardon my language) Yah, we all been through that and survived from it. Someone told me that the difference between a mature man/woman than an immature one is the fact that mature man/woman looks for what he/she NEED than what he/she WANT! Many times you think you mistaken of the things that you want to what you really need. Don’t get into a relationship because you think you need one for whatever reason. Sometimes learning to live along is part of learning how to live with another person. You need to know how you like your life to be in order to find a partner that suits you the best right?! Don’t get too caught up by other people’s view on the singles if you are. There is nothing wrong to be single. It is just you are still working on yourself! Love comes when you least expected with the greatest result whenever you are ready for it. :)

1. Trust, don’t get suspicious!

2. Honest, Don’t hide anything!

3. Forgive, Anyone can make mistakes!

4. Understand, There are things to be done!

5. Space, People won’t just have one kind of friend!

6. Appreciate, To meet him/her is not easy and fall in love together is even harder!

7. Miss, Constantly miss him/her!

I came from a background with a combination of three continents in the world. I understand what is lonely and what it could put your true self to test. Being away from home brings you many excitements and freedom and yet sometimes you feel you don’t belong anywhere. In life, first step is always exciting. When you done “enjoying” wondering around aimlessly, you will start to feel purposeless in life. Gradually you feel unfulfilled and then you start searching for your purpose in life. Here you are, pulling all your logical sense and trying hard to know yourself and finally you made your decision. On the way to your goal, many things will happen and many many many things/people will discourage you. Many people gave up and change their goal. Many people realized that they really didn’t set the goal right in the first place. Whatever your case maybe, I have to say, it is ok to be wrong. It is ok to try out different things.

Here is what I had learned:

Success starts at the moment when you believe in yourself. Success proceeds when you take action! Success achieves with your determination! 

Believe in yourself. It is lonely at the top, but during the process, you will know who your true friends are. Don’t forget about where you came from and don’t hesitate on making the right decision. To me, people can be from different cultures, but what’s inside is really not that much of difference. The differences between people are just their own characteristics. We might celebrate birthday differently, but we all celebrate birthday! Or we all have new years tho we might not have it on the same date! Being successful might not bring the most money in the world, but it certainly brings joy in your life. ;) Be open minded and accept the challenges. I am sure you will get to your goal soon enough!  

Do you take your parents’ love and care for granted? I hope not! They are the people who will give you the best in everything within their power. They are the ones who have life experiences that want to pass to you. They never want you to get hurt, physically or emotionally. Trust your parents that they do things for your own good. They nag, annoying, and constantly want you to do things that you don’t want to. However, my life experience taught me that I will treat my kids the same way. A home doesn’t mean it’s a family. A family can be formed by 2 people and above. It takes effort to make a home into a family. Don’t ever think that they will never understand! They are the ones that will try hard to understand you, but you will have to be willing to share! Be open with your parents! You will be surprised how big their heart can contain. Don’t lie to them because they are good life advisors. Don’t betray their trust because they have to fight their worries to let you go about your things along. Tell your parents that you love them whenever you can. Share the love with your family! After all, they are the ones that can fulfill your heart. :)

"Going nowhere fast. We’ve reached the climax. Were together now we’re undone. Won’t commit so we choose to run away. Do we separate? Don’t wanna give in so we both gave up. Can’t take it back. It’s too late. We’ve reached the climax, climax.”

I am sure all of you are familiar with the term “honey moon period.” Generally it last about 3 month. Sometimes I wonder if you have to care about the person a little less in order not to get into arguments. Selfish desires starts when strong emotion presents. Your sensitivity heightened. You pay extra attention to details and interpreted into different things. Unfortunately, people most likely stuck in the negative interpretations. This is where arguments come in to play. During honey moon period, people automatically embellish anything and everything that is related to the person. After a few month, the reality will fill into space. You will start using magnifying glass to inspect a person. You start to see this person as someone who you may potentially spent the rest of your life with. You will be scared and afraid that you might not be able to accept some parts of him. Now, communication is the key. However, in every relationship, you need work! There is no such thing called perfect relationship from the beginning til the end. The perfect someone is the one who can understand you and able to compromise. Someone understands your need. Sometimes when you think you need something from your partner is not really what you really need. Be open minded and considerate. People do things with a reason. Sometimes when he/she say something might be hard for your ears, but can be an antidote to your problem. Don’t give-up on something you believe is worth fighting for. Try to remind yourself the happy moments that you guys spent together. Remember the initial affections and not to give up easily on something or someone who you believe in. 

I’m sure you all are  familiar with this idea. When life goes to the deepest darkness, what do you do? Personal experience, I went nuts! Being anxious, doleful, upset because of feeling depressed, angry, the urge to break free or abdicate life itself. Do what you have to do to stand up again. Remember, people will not care how you fall but how you perform at the moment. There is always a way out. The matter is if you are willing to look. Sometimes is good to be idle. I don’t mean in a long term condition of course. But when your life is going down, you will know who are your real friends. You will be able to contact friends and family more often. You will be more opened up to your problems. For those who can’t open up, well, there is gotta be at least one you can talk to. After you reconnect with your support system, next step will be to TRUST YOURSELF!! To be in a relationship at the time can worsen things quiet a bit, especially when the other person just didn’t get it or worse case, give up on you. I guess during those bad times, you will be able to distinguish your love to another. What do I mean by that? If your partner can’t be there during your darkest time, then he/she is probably not right for you. Communication is the key which I solid agree. However, it is a two way street. If both of you are waiting for the other to open up, you may put yourself in a dead end. We always think that the Mr. or Mrs. Right means the auto-perfection customized for you. What I have learned was that relationship needs work. Everyone is perfect for his/herself. It’s just when two people comes together, how do you approach his/her imperfections to you. If you think he/she is valuable, don’t give up easily. As technology grows, people are easier to give up on relationships. I still remember those amazing stories where people wrote letters. I start to wonder if hi-tech made us less faithful in life. Either way, I wish you all enjoy the weekend. For those who has the plus one, please spent more time together and find the spark when you first met. Trust me, it’s the magic of symbiosis!! ;)